My favorite partner in crime!

In my now 35 years on this earth, I have been fortunate to enjoy many rich and fulfilling experiences. I have met and learned from amazing people, I found support from people I barely knew, I learned from mistakes and I have become the person I am today for all these reasons. Below are some the nuggets of wisdom I have picked up along the way (in no particular order).

  1. Relationships with siblings are deep and real. At the end of the day, my siblings are among my biggest fans and I theirs. We have seen each other at our best and our worst, we have helped each other grow, the years of fighting and our shared childhood has provided us with an unbreakable bond.
  2. Always carry jumper cables in your car.
  3. Always strive to be the person you want to be rather than the person it is easy to be – you will be thankful for your efforts in the end.
  4. I love romantic comedies and Criminal Minds – don’t judge me.
  5. Life is not scripted so there are no right or wrong answers there is only the path you choose to travel. It took me a long to fully understand this one.
  6. Be silly – don’t take yourself too seriously.
  7. Peanut butter and chocolate are the greatest combination, EVER!
  8. Life is for living and for the living. This was a hard learned lesson. Never forget the amazing people in your life you pass before you but don’t stop living because they have – if they meant that much to you, they would certainly want you to continue to enjoy the gift of life.
  9. Flu shots don’t really hurt that much but I always make the ladies go first, because I am still scared to get mine.
  10. Respect people who say “I don’t know” or “Let me check on that”.
  11. Don’t leave a can of pop (soda) in your car, overnight, during the winter – trust me.
  12. I have good reasons for needing an ice cube in my coffee, no ice in my pop (soda), for only eating ice cream and pizza indoors –at least they are good reasons to me.
  13. If you can feel the muscles in your face straining from frowning it is time to hang up with the insurance company – tomorrow is another day.
  14. Don’t ever stop dating your spouse.
  15. When you take off your eyeglasses always put them in the same spot – no really always.
  16. I can’t carry a tune, or clap to the beat of a song and my dance skills are “developing” but that doesn’t stop me from singing to my kids or dancing with them
  17. When you have the choice to laugh or cry always try to laugh first. Don’t get me wrong there are days that I cry but when I am having one of the days where the universe is against me, I do a lot better when I turn laughter instead of tears.
  18. Focus on what you have in common with a person rather than your differences – some of my closest friends are of the opposite political party, don’t care for Portillo’s hotdogs or don’t have a social media account – baffling, I know.
  19. GPS technology on my phone has truly made me a better person.
  20. Don’t ask what is the worst that can happen, ask what is the best that can happen. I am totally working on this because I always plan for the worst, hope for the best and settle for what I get J
  21. Some of the closest friends I have in this world don’t know they are my closest friends but I am thankful for them just the same. I am committing to letting them each know how much they mean to me.
  22. Be liberal with compliments because, why not?
  23. Don’t joke with your doctor about “better living through chemistry.”
  24. Don’t joke with TSA, ever, about anything. Period end of story.
  25. Pay it forward, whenever possible.
  26. Don’t misuse words hurtful words; it is not about being politically correct it is about being respectful. And if you use the word “retard” in my presence be ready for an education.
  27. Even though, I was born in Chicago I don’t feel like it is a mortal sin to put ketchup on a hotdog.
  28. Sometimes friends slip-away make sure it is a choice and if it just happens, pick –up the phone and catch-up.
  29. Be willing to learn from anyone and everyone – I cannot tell how many important lessons I have learned from people 10 and under
  30. Depression is a real medical condition. I suffer from depression and when the black cloud begins to return I immediately seek help. There is no shame in mental illness – it is an illness.
  31. Don’t criticize someone’s driving while driving with them.
  32. You can turn your spring wardrobe into a winter wardrobe by simply adding a turtleneck.
  33. Moving cross-country is a lot of work but don’t let that deter you from an amazing opportunity to take your career to the next level and meet amazing new people.
  34. Collect friends don’t replace them.
  35. Remember the way you talk to your kids becomes their inner voice for good or bad. So I can be proud when Vivian says, “Mom is okay to be angry but I think there are better to express your anger or frustration,” and I can grimace when she says “You know we don’t always get everything we want exactly when we want it – I know you want my room cleaned now but I have other priorities.”